Mending Babyloss Holiday Invitation

Mending Babyloss Holiday Season Invitation

The holidays are coming and I’m not sure I’m ready. I’m not sure I’ll ever be ready again. It’s winter and I feel as frozen inside as the landscape is outside. I tried making out my gift list today, but the tears kept getting in the way. It is so hard to think about gifts and fun and the holidayswhen a loved one has died.

As I get out the dishes and count the silverware, I am acutely aware of the empty place at the family table. I’m trying to find the holiday spirit, but when the family circle has been broken by death, the only things that sparkle this season are my tears. – From Care Notes, by Darcie D. Sims

With the upcoming arrival of the holiday season, we are thinking about the many parents we’ve met who, like you, have experienced the loss of a baby or babies. This season can be difficult for those who are grieving. We’ve found that when people have the opportunity to share these experiences, there is an opportunity to find light in the season. In the weeks ahead, we will be sharing material, thoughts, activities, handouts, which are specific to the holidays and those who are grieving. We hope that you will join us.

“Things have been better for me, since the last meeting. I’m not thinking about my losses every minute of the day like I was. I feel like I’ve healed some, and I’m sure it has a lot to do with the Group!”

– Mending Babyloss Group Participant, 2010

All groups meet on Monday evenings from 6:30-8:00 pm at St. Luke’s Health Education Center. Upcoming Dates:
•    December 6, 2010
•    December 20, 2010
•    January 3, 2011

We have been re-thinking the structure of the Mending Babyloss Support Groups. We have realized that people are better served when there are at least three people in the group, as three people can provide community and promote supported discussion from others who are facing similar losses. We are now asking that people call or email a group facilitator (www.mendingbabyloss.wordpress.com) by the Sunday before the group to let us know that they will be coming. Then, if there are fewer than three people attending, the attendee can decide if a smaller group would still meet their needs.

The holidays can become a time of peace and reflection, a time to cherish the gift your loved one has been – and continues to be – in the life of your family.

We hope to see you again in the days ahead.

In Support,
Christine Gibbs, Mary Adler, and Mary Burgess

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Critical Acclaim in International Doula

Ahh… December has been a lovely month for beautiful words written by amazing folks. Read what Jennifer Rokeby-Mayeux of International Doula (a publication of DONA-Doulas of North America) wrote:

I had the pleasure of reading Mary Burgess’s book Mending Invisible Wings; a Healing Journal for Mothers. The spiral bound journal style book is full of affirmations, activities and exercises to assist mothers as they heal from the loss of a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death.

The journal is divided into four parts, each with many exercises that lead the mother through a variety of activities that engage all the senses. Each exercise includes an action, affirmation and self-nurturance activity. This journal boasts plenty of space dedicated to journaling, writing and drawing, so everything can be contained in one private, personal space.

This book could be just the right gift to give to a mother who is dealing with the death of a child. The journal will allow the mother to work through her pain and grief at her own pace, guiding her through this difficult process.

Mending Invisible Wings: Healing From the Loss of Your Baby
By Mary Burgess with Shiloh Sophia McCloud
Palm of Her Hand Publications

(see Purchase section for more information on purchasing Mending Invisible Wings)

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Babylost Holidays

There are many emotions spurred during the holiday season, and for the woman who has lost a baby, holidays can be a tender, emotion-filled, and difficult time.

Have you, or has someone dear to you, lost a baby to miscarriage, stillbirth, or within the first year of life? Were you the midwife or doula to someone who lost a baby?

If so, consider this lovely journal for yourself or this babylost Mama: Mending Invisible Wings – a healing journal for mothers who have lost a baby.

Within its pages are writings from others: mothers, doulas, a midwife, a father… each of whom have traveled this path. There are gently guided Healing Expressions, encouraging the reader to acknowledge, honor, and release her emotions surrounding this loss, plus an entire section of healing ceremonies. Poetry is woven throughout, like a golden thread. There are many illustrations on thick paper – to color, paint, write in, scribble on, decorate… illustrations that speak to a grieving woman’s heart. There are lots of blank spaces and room to think and write and draw and cry on and dream. There are visualizations and affirmations and suggestions for honoring the woman’s body, that she may so deeply feel has let her down.

There is no more difficult journey than to lose one’s child.

It is hard to find the words to say.

A gift of Mending Invisible Wings is a lovely place to start.

with love, m.

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Remembrance, Oct 15, Mother of All

October 15 is the National Infant Loss Awareness Night, and the world-wide candle vigil, Wave of Light, happens this night, everywhere at 7pm local time. Those who want to honor, acknowledge, and remember babies lost are invited to light a candle, or candles. Here are mine for tonight:

7pm, Oct 15, Candles

Candles, Oct 15, 7pm

w/ Mother of All painting

These candles were placed beneath the Mother of All, a painting created by Shiloh. Do you know the story behind this painting? If not, here is an excerpt from Mending Invisible Wings…

ABOUT THE COVER PAINTING – A NOTE FROM SHILOH

The painting is entitled: Mother of All, Send Your Angels to Protect This Holy Soul, and she has an amazing story…

While being painted, somehow the painting got punctured. The canvas actually tore through, in the area just below her right breast. I was devastated. I had no idea what to do.

My mentor and family matriarch, Sue Hoya Sellars, used the painting to demonstrate the technique of mending a painting.  You cut a piece of canvas and from another canvas, and gesso underneath and many layers over the back. The whole process takes some time, and while I was doing it, I felt the healing journey in myself as well.

You cannot see the tear on the front anymore, although there is a slight dimple.  She has healed, but on the back is this wonderful little band aid, created with so much care, which taught me to do a technique of curing paintings that I have had to do many times since.  I feel a sense of affection for that spot on the painting now – and the whole painting took on another layer of energy.

My husband was on a trip when I was working on healing it and finishing it, and as soon as he got home, he said he had to have that special painting in our home. It hung in our house for over five years.  I made prints of it, which became bestsellers,
with the caption, Protection for this Woman.

When Mary and I were working this book, Mending Invisible Wings, this painting came to mind as WHO needed to be cover. Mary agreed and so I designed the whole theme around her opalescent blue and purple palette. Then after the cover was completed, I spontaneously asked my husband if I could have the painting back – and he agreed, reticently. I said that I thought she had another life to live, where others could see her. I hung her up in my studio.  Now, she belongs to Mary Burgess, the Author of this book, and it was through sharing with her the story of the painting, that this little writing got included as one of the last pieces in the book.
Mary and I both see the deeper meaning everywhere, and are always and ever eager to share the medicine just beneath the surface.

She has always been a guardian for women. She is very rich… her colors are opalescent and have lots of shimmer. She is totally at peace, and she is not the one wounded, but the one protecting, whom the Mother of All sent for us. She is a Guardian, a Protector. The painting is a prayer, and the prayer itself is written in the lower left hand corner.

She did take that one wound, but I feel, for our sakes, she endured it and healed to show us all how to heal our wounds. She is a sign of protection and of healing.

Mother of All, Send Your Angels to Protect This Holy Soul

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Mending Invisible Wings – A Healing Journal for Mothers

A Mother’s Healing Journal following the loss of her baby through
late-term miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death.

In Mending Invisible Wings, you are invited to
Honor the light of your Spirit Child,
Acknowledge your experience,
Explore the realm of Compassion & Forgiveness,
Release and Rebuild,
Soothe your aching arms & tender wounds
As you write, draw, paint & color your own tapestry of loss.

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Press Release for Mending Invisible Wings

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Contact:  Palm of Her Hand, Mary MacDonald

Web:       http://www.palmofherhand.com

Tel:         1-800-515-6623

Email:     palmofherhand@gmail.com

Helping Women Heal from the Loss of Their Baby

Healdsburg, CA – September 1, 2009.  That revolutionary company, Palm of Her Hand, founded by Visionary Artist and writer, Shiloh Sophia McCloud is at it again with another book designed to bless the world – and this time, the topic is something not many people like to talk about: the death of a baby.  Author Mary Burgess, Shiloh Sophia McCloud and Phyllis Klaus, poignantly talk about this subject in their new collaboration.

This incredible new journal and workbook, ‘Mending Invisible Wings’, takes the mother on a healing journey working through the grieving process after the loss of her child, during late pregnancy, at birth, or within the first year of life. True to form with other Palm of Her Hand books, the journal uses creativity and self-expression for healing.

Shiloh met Mary Burgess, a Doula from Bellingham, Washington, a year ago after Mary had created a draft book for this delicate topic.  The two collaborated with Palm of Her Hand and Cosmic Cowgirls Ink, as well as grieving mothers, midwives, doulas and birth experts like Phyllis Klaus, to produce this heartfelt offering.  Mary had as a doula, witnessed a stillbirth, and as a mother she experienced the loss of her first baby early in pregnancy and the more she began to share about it, the more she heard about all of the other birth practitioners, and hurting mothers, who were in need of support on a topic so tender, there are often no words.

Mending Invisible Wings addresses a small window of time in a woman’s life, when she has lost a baby, but it is an experience that hurts for a lifetime no matter how much time has passed.  “When a woman loses a baby, she finds that she has very few outlets for her grief, and very few people who will talk to her, listen to her, without adding their own stories. There are very few places that she can deeply, honestly express herself, her grief, her birth story, her journey of loss and all it encompasses. This book is vibrant, and welcoming and encourages a baby lost Mama to fully express herself, through writing, drawing, painting, visualization, poetry, gentle ceremony, and so much more” says Mary.

This unique offering includes poetry, illustrations to color, creative healing expressions, ceremonies, rituals and guidance on moving through to the other side of this challenging experience.  The previously released titles from Palm of Her Hand/Cosmic Cowgirls are ‘Heart of the Visionary: A Workbook for Entrepreneurs’, and ‘The Caring One’, for Alzheimers Caregivers. The publishing company is woman and girl owned and is dedicated to providing tools for healing and transformation on topics close to our hearts. The next two books deal with recovery from addiction, and recovering from cancer.

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